Happier Life - Self Improvement

Be Happy--------- Improve yourself

You must really want to become a happy person. You have been on this planet for a while, and you are pretty familiar with who you are. You know what you like and what you don't, you have a personality which means a fairly predictable way of reacting, and you are comfortable with who you are.

For the most part. Change is a threat. It makes you uneasy. So you have to make a decision; a decision to try new ways of doing and thinking, and to override your innate conservatism and hesitation. Not easy, but worth it.
                   To achieve success with one of the approaches that you try. Doesn't have to be anything major. Just a perceptible improvement in your personal happiness. Maybe you wake up looking forward to the day ahead. Even if it happens only occasionally. Just enough to know that you are on the right track.
        

           Stop the negative thinking. "Poor me. I'm single and everyone else around me is in relationship and they are ALL happier than me. Being single sucks." This thought alone will keep you in the "being single sucks" mentality. It's time to get out of it.

When that thought comes in, tell it to stop. You are making assumptions that others are happy - remember that we all put on a happy face culturally, but it's not necessarily the truth. There are many of people miserable and/or lonely

           Create a healthy relationship with yourself. Say, "I am complete and whole as I am" to yourself at the start of everyday .  

             Build your tribe. Call people who you want to spend time with, don't just expect others to reach out to you. Other people want to know that they are cared about too - and you can provide that care. Make plans with them.  Don't waste time and energy  trying to connect with people who are regularly "too busy."

         Make plans for the evening. Take a weekly creative art class, make a dinner plan, attend a community event, go to yoga, and more.

           Have a pet or Hobby in home . Pets or hobby are one of the best parts of being human - I believe! Coming home to a live being is incredibly fun and feeds that part of your heart  that wants to love.

             Be present while you eat. Eating can be one of the "lonely" times being single. Choose it as a time to be present with your food. Look at your food, smell your food, enjoy the taste of your food enjoy your food . And finally, thank your food for sustaining your body.

          If you are alone!  Know that you're not alone. There are more and more people choosing the single lifestyle. They are choosing to not settle for less in a relationship, and finding happiness on their own - you can too.

       

Take the time you need, change your course as you learn what works and what doesn't. Be prepared for surprise. Become an adventurer in life!

Final thought: I am not saying that you'll be happier outside of a relationship. What I'm saying is that you can be truly happy on your own.